Saturday, November 27, 2010

You are the One.... (Poem)
















I fell in Love with  you,  many years ago
When I was a little girl, and  wished on the new moon
For someone to share my honest heart
There were lots of times, when I thought I had found you
And was disappointed, but
When you finally came along,  I knew you right away
Because you were a  gentle  clown
With a dream or two of your own
You were the one who took my hand, and
Showed me the way to  the stars
There you were waving your happy  n  optimistic heart at me
Your  young  heart at me
I'll stumble  and  fall  but you will give me
The faith  that I require, and encourage me
To get up and try again
I stand here waving my cheerful heart  at you
Because you set my  heart free, as free, as free could be
Yes, you are the one, you are the perfect one for me.....

Love




What love is NOT?

Possessiveness is not love
Jealousy is not love
Lust is not love
Fear is not love
Keeping people all to yourself is not love
Expecting something from someone is not love
Real love is unconditional. All other “forms” of love are not really love. Most parents and kids don’t love each other, most people in relationships don’t love each other, most people on the planet never experience unconditional love in their entire lives… or at least it sure looks that way.
To love someone unconditionally means that you love the person exactly as they are, exactly as they were before, and exactly as they will be in the future – because people change all the time, so if you love the person, you will love them even if they become something you disagree with. How many parents can say that about their kids? How many people can say that about their “lover”? Love is not about you or your pleasure or your amusement. It’s not about what you get out of it or what the other person can give to you. It’s not about having a trophy you can show off with and tell people “This is *MY* girlfriend/boyfriend/wife/husband/son/daughter/whatever”. You do not “own” anyone. It’s not about you feeling ‘proud’ to be with someone who always agrees with everything you say and do and never does anything you disagree with. Unconditional love means that the person can just live their life exactly as they choose and you will always be there for them no matter what.
So, how does unconditional love fit in with relationships and marriage and sex and all that stuff the whole world keeps going crazy over? It doesn’t, really. It doesn’t “fit” in anywhere. Relationships are like trying to put love into a box and keep it there, except love is infinitely sized, and the box is… well, there is no box large enough. And a normal, conventional marriage is quite possibly the worst possible way to show someone how much you love them.
Unconditional love is more of a spiritual thing. It’s not bound by physical things, like blood relations and the desire to procreate. It has nothing whatsoever to do with sex. Most people are in relationships because they’re horny and/or lonely, even if they genuinely think they love the other person. But if the person they “love” suddenly lost their “equipment” for whatever reason, would they still want to be with that person? Would they get jealous if the person they “love” wanted to spend time with other people as well? Relationships based on needs are not unconditional.
In order to truly understand love, you must first forget everything you have ever learned about it from society and anyone else (including what I just said). You are the only person who can tell you what love is. The only reason I’m writing all this stuff is because people always try to fit “love” in with things like dating, relationships and marriage and all that. You can’t make any sense of it if you keep doing that. You have to get rid of everything you think you know first.

Headbanging


Headbanging is a type of dance which involves violently shaking the head in time with music, most commonly rock music and heavy  metal music.


The term "headbanger" was coined during Led Zapplin's first US tour in 1969. During a show at the Boston Tea Party, audience members in the first row were banging their heads against the stage in rhythm with the music.
Lemmy from Motorhead, however, said in an interview on the documentary The Decline of Western Civilization: The Metal Years, that the term "Headbanger" may have originated in the band's name, as in "Motorheadbanger".Ian Gillian, frontman of Deep Purple, when asked if he invented headbanging he said, "That’s a definite possibility"
In 2005, Terry Balsamo, Evanascence guitarist, incurred a stroke from headbanging. There have also been cases of people incurring whiplash from headbanging such as Craig Jones of Slipknot and it is common to experience headaches and stiff or sore necks as a result of headbanging
There are various styles of headbanging. Various styles are often mixed together according to taste and to the tempo and heaviness of the music. They can also be performed with eyes closed and/or in combination with hand gestures such as the sign  of horns, singing, yelling, and lip syncing. Headbangers' bodies usually bang with the head, reducing the strain on the neck and making the body move in a serpentine, up-and-down fashion to the music. There are a number of different stances a headbanger can adopt, from a wide stance with one foot farther in front than the other to feet wide apart to either side. The stance chosen is usually determined to gain the best base for the headbanger to keep their balance and avoid falling over.

Facebook Addiction



The Facebook Compulsion Inventory

My Results


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46-60 - Your Facebook use is quite possibly excessive. You may be experiencing some difficulties in your life and relationships as a result of your Facebook use. You may want to consider ways to reconnect and connect with your family and friends that do not involve Facebook. If you continue to find yourself using Facebook as a major way to meet your emotional and social needs, it is important that you put more time back into your primary relationships outside of Facebook, or seek professional help.

Multiple Personality Disorder


Multiple personality disorder is almost always caused by persistent trauma, or past trauma such as early childhood sexual or physical abuse. When trauma occurs over a long period of time, the affected person may begin to cope by completely disassociating from the events that cause the trauma. This can lead to “alters,” separate personalities within the same person who either are aware of, or are unaware of the abuse. Alters can be childlike, strong, male, or female, and often emerge as a coping device.
Psychiatrists make the distinction between a person having several personalities, and believing they have several personalities. In general, multiple personality disorder is the belief on the part of the patient that several personalities seem to exist within the self.
One of the main characteristics of multiple personality disorder is that people seem to “lose” time. They seem unaware that time has passed; yet someone observing them may see them acting in many different ways. The afflicted however, tends to have no idea what has occurred. This generally central personality seems most likely to dissociate if the person is exposed to situations which can evoke earlier traumas, or if the person is still enmeshed in a traumatic situation.
Other symptoms of multiple personality disorder include depression, confusion, suicidal thoughts, phobias, differing levels of ability to function “normally,” anxiety, and self-medication, such as alcoholism or drug abuse. Additionally, those with multiple personality disorder may hurt themselves such as in cutting the skin, may have a high degree of panic or panic attacks, may have eating disorders or be prone to headaches.
As portrayed in films, multiple personality disorder seems to consist of a number of very distinct personalities, which is usually not the case in reality. Rather, those with multiple personality disorder may pass from greater awareness to less, without putting on a different accent or assuming a completely separate identity. Multiple personality disorder that results in crimes, as presented in several television series and with great effect in the Richard Gere film Primal Fear rarely exists.
The primary treatment for multiple personality disorder is therapy, which may include play therapy, hypnosis, art therapy, and/or talk therapy. Medication is usually not preferred because of the likelihood of overdose, and because the dissociative state is not chemically induced. The goal is to get alters in communication with each other, so that the person does not continue to dissociate from reality. A secondary goal is to be sure the person is removed from any ongoing traumatic situations, such as removing a child from an abusive home.
When the person has reintegrated different personalities, there may still be need for treatment, possibly drug therapy to treat underlying psychological conditions like chronic depression or schizophrenia. However, while the person is still “losing time,” drug treatment may be completely ineffective because the person may not remember to take the medication or may accidentally overdose.

List of Female Serial Killers - Ain't born as serial killers....



Belle Gunness

Killing Zone: La Porte, Indiana
Modus Operandi: Stabbed, beheaded, beat victims to death
Span of Killings: 1900-1908
No. of Victims: 40+
Story: Belle Gunness was an unremorseful black widow who killed her children, adopted children, many husbands and wooers in order to collect insurance money on their insurance policy. Every time her husband or children died or her house caught on fire, she applied for the insurance claim and was handed over the insurance money albeit reluctantly. Although suspicions grew when her guests, mostly her suitors, and her children started disappearing or dying mysteriously, she still managed to convince law enforcement people of her innocence. In 1908, when she realized that her game was up, she staged her own death with the help of her loyal servant Lamphere and evaded arrest. After that, her whereabouts are little known.
Capture and Punishment: Never caught

Aileen Wuornos

Killing Zone: Florida
Modus Operandi: Shot strangers mostly her clients while she was working as a prostitute
Span of Killings: 1989-1990
No. of Victims: 7
Story: Alieen Wuornos had a tough childhood, with her father serving a sentence on the charges of child molestation and attempted murder, and her mother abandoning her brother and her. She and her brother were raised by her grandparents, but later on they too passed away. At the age of 14, she was reportedly raped and impregnated by an unknown assailant. She gave her child for adoption and hit the road to work as a prostitute. After some petty crimes, she began on a killing spree, mostly shooting strangers (males) and robbing them of their belongings. Upon getting caught, she claimed she did it in self defense, as they were trying to rape her but later on, gave a full and real confession at the behest of her lover.
Capture and Punishment: Arrested in 1991 and died in 2002 through lethal injection administered by State.

Countess Elizabeth Báthory de Ecsed

Killing Zone: Csejte, Slovakia and Sarvar, Hungry
Modus Operandi: Tortured, burned, froze to death, killed many victims
Span of Killings: 1590-1610
No. of Victims: 600+ girls and young women
Story: Known as the Blood Countess or Countess Dracula, she was born in to a noble family and later married Count Ferenc Nadasdy. Her earlier victims were the servant girls of Csejte Castle, where she lived with her husband. After her husband's death, she got a free rein to torture and kill women which she accomplished with the help of her four faithful servants. She was believed to bathe in the blood of young women in pursuit of eternal beauty. As the number of bodies and her "hobby" grew, rumors started to spread. Eventually, some of her intended victims ran away from her capture and ratted out the whole tale to the authorities. Being of aristocratic lineage, she was never put on a trial, though her accomplices were awarded capital punishment. 
Capture and Punishment: Was put on Castle arrest in 1610 till her death but never brought to trial.

Amelia Dyer

Killing Zone: London
Span of Killings: Over 20 years
Modus Operandi: Killed babies by strangling or poison and threw their bodies in Thames
No. of Victims: 247 babies
Story: Amelia Dyer was one of the most prolific female serial killers in history. She was notoriously called baby farmer killer or baby butcher for killing babies whom she adopted from unmarried mothers in the pretext of raising them. She charged a considerable fee for her services and even advertised in the newspaper. In the beginning of her killing career, she used to let the toddlers or new borns die from neglect or starvation but later on, she decidedly started murdering them by strangulation or opium injection and thus, pocketing the entire money of their upkeep.
Capture and Punishment: Caught by London Police in 1896 and was put to death through hanging.

Madame Popova

Killing Zone: Samara, Russia
Modus Operandi: Killed abusive husbands for a nominal fee
Span of Killings: 1879-1909
No. of Victims: 300+ men
Story: Modame Popova was a profit killer who freed women from the shackles of cruel husbands and in return charged a fee. She chose inexpensive methods like poisons to put her victims six feet under. In 1909, the police received information from a recently widowed and repenting woman about Madame Popova involvement in her husband's death which led to her capture.
Capture and Punishment: Caught in 1909, and was executed through a firing squad.

Jane Toppan

Killing Zone: Boston, USA
Modus Operandi: Killed her patients with lethal injections
Span of Killings:1885-1901
No. of Victims: 31
Story: This angel of death had a troubled childhood where she scarcely received any love and affection from her foster parents and foster siblings. Although hailing from a biological family which had a history of mental illness, her final breakdown was when she was left standing alone at the altar. After passing her nursing examination, she commenced her career as a medical practitioner and also as an impenitent silent murderess, and began to inject lethal doses of morphine and atropine in to her patients. Her ambition was to kill more people than anyone else. Fortunately in 1901, her killing spree came to an end when she was arrested for murdering her foster sister. She confessed to all the killings and pleaded insanity and hence, spent rest of her life in an insane hospital.
Capture and Punishment: Died a natural death in an asylum

Juana Barraza

Killing Zone: Mexico City, Mexico
Modus Operandi: Clubbed or strangled women over 60 years of age and looted them.
Span of Killings: Late 1990s-2006
No. of Victims: 11+
Story: This broad shouldered, masculine serial killer was a professional wrestler, who used to enter the house of lone old women by feigning to be a social worker and killed them. Sometimes, traces of sexual activity was also found at the crime scenes. Mexican police was bewildered at these killings and even attempted to dismiss them by calling it "media sensationalism". Finally, when the police got its act together, they got clues which led them on the hunt of a large transvestite. However, when this 'old lady killer' was fleeing from a crime scene, she was caught.
Capture and Punishment: Arrested and sentenced to 759 years of imprisonment

Waltraud Wagner

Killing Zone: Vienna
Modus Operandi: Worked with three other partners and injected lethal doses of morphine into patients, and drowned the victims
Span of Killings: 1983-1991
No. of Victims: 40+
Story: Waltraud Wagner, an angel of death, worked in a Vienna hospital as a nurse where she resorted to killing patients in order to play God and enjoyed the control it gave her. Later on, she "enrolled" three more nurses in this killing business. They made a special kind of camaraderie among themselves and killed many innocent unsuspecting patients. They even devised a special kind of water torture where they used to pour water into the mouth of a patient with his nose forcibly closed till he drowned.
Capture and Punishment: Went on trial in 1991 and was given a life sentence. 

Kathleen Folbigg

Killing Zone: New South Wales, Austrailia
Modus Operandi: Smothered her own children
Span of Killings:1991-1999
No. of Victims: 4
Story: Kathleen Folbigg had unpleasant childhood memories. Her mother was violently stabbed to death by her biological father. Moreover, she was tossed off from many foster homes because of her deviant behavior and her mother's murder. She married in 1985, and was a doting and loving wife and mother from the outside. After a while, she incessantly started bringing her kids to hospital who were dead on arrival. SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) was held responsible for their deaths. However, her husband happened to discover her personal diary by-chance, where detailed account of the baby killings were jotted down.
Capture and Punishment: Serving 40 years of imprisonment.

Mary Ann Cotton

Killing Zone: England
Modus Operandi: Used arsenic to poison people
Span of Killings: Unknown
No. of Victims: 21
Story: In the 19th century, morality rate was quite high especially of infants. This was one of the reasons why so many deaths in single family was not investigated. Mary Ann Cotton invariably poisoned her kids, her four husbands and many lovers by arsenic. She applied for insurance pay out after almost every death until the rising body counts raised some eyebrows and instigated her arrest.
Capture and Punishment: Hanged to death by State.


This was the top female serial killers list, which not only shocked the world due to the nature of the crimes but also because of the relationship between the victims and the criminal. Paraded as more like an anomaly than a common occurrence, female serial killers choose to work wordlessly and often go undetected in the society. For law enforcement, psychologists, and the common folks, female serial killers are a puzzle and a shocking reminder of the depravity of human psyche.


Female Serial Killers


Traditionally we accord femininity with frailty, fragility and daintily passive behavior, but in contrast to it female serial killers have a uncontrollable passive rage inside them. A study done by Robert Ressler, a former FBI agent and to whom the credit of coining the term serial killer is given, has helped the FBI in many serial killing cases and reasoning out the motives and modus operandi (MO) of numerous serial killers. Voices in the head, childhood abuse or trauma, sexual incompetency, attention seeking, inferiority complex, dysfunctional personality are some of the driving factors which lead male serial killers on a killing spree. Since a female offender's reason for committing crimes are much different than her male counterparts, police and law enforcement agencies have a difficult time tracking her and putting her behind the bars.
Money and materialistic tendencies is what drives female serial killers for committing multiple murders. However, attention seeking behavior, cult, sex, need to overpower, personality disorders, to name a few are also leading causes of turning women in to mass murderesses. In 1998, a study was conducted by M. D. Kelleher and C. L. Kelleher where 100 female serial killing cases were taken in to account and its conclusions led to the classification of female serial killers in to nine categories.
  1. Angel of Death - She can be seen in the role of medical caretaker, nurse, midwife, home aide, doctor, etc. Angel of death usually preys on the sick, vulnerable or invalid in order to fulfill the desires of control and domination.
  2. Black Widow - A black widow murders for greed. Her husband, children or other family member become sacrificial to her lust for money. They are generally seen to kill for inheritance or for collecting life insurance.
  3. Sexual Predator - A female serial killer in the role of sexual predator is a rarity, especially with out a partner. But recently new cases have come up which would shed more light on female sexual predator behavior.
  4. Avenger - She lashes out at all those who have thwarted her in her gains. Deep seated anger, desire for revenge drives this woman to commit mass murders.
  5. Partner in Crime - Crime teams are not unheard of and male-female partnership for serial killing is also not that uncommon. They often commit crimes of sexual nature where the male accomplices mostly dominate their female partners.
  6. Profit or Crime - Profit killers, again, are a rarity. They are considered as bright and resourceful without any conscience. They are sociopaths who are ready to kill just to get their way in the world.
  7. Question of Sanity - Delusions, paranoia, schizophrenia and other mental disorders are some of the reasons which are responsible for crimes done by female offenders. Although these are mainly male serial killer's characteristics, some women psychopathic killers are believed to have heard voices in their heads and suffering from varied delusions.
  8. Unexplained - Killings by a woman in a random and unapparent manner which baffles the law enforcement, particularly where the motives remain obscure and inexplicable.
  9. Unsolved - The unsolved crimes which are believed to be the work of a woman.
  • They kill for money and other coveted gains.
  • It takes around eight years to catch a black widow or an angel of death which is about two times longer than it takes to catch a male psychopathic serial killer.
  • They generally keep a low profile and more often than not, kill people who are close to them, or with whom they have a personal connection.
  • They target vulnerable victims like sick people, children, spouses, old people.
  • Angel of death are killers who are often diagnosed with Munchausen syndrome or Muchausen syndrome by proxy. In the former disorder, the person pretends to be ill, often taking elaborate lengths to mislead doctors and create the symptoms of a disease just to gain the attention of people, and their sympathy. Moreover, they enjoy duping medical practitioners and get a sense of elation from it. Similarly, in Muchausen syndrome by proxy, the person deliberately makes a child or family member sick in order to gain sympathy. They even resort to killing for their gratification.
As female serial killers prefer to keep a low visibility and tend to work silently, methodically and precisely, they choose less aggressive modes for killing than male serial killers like:
  • Poisoning
  • Clubbing
  • Drowning
  • Stabbing
  • Strangulating
  • Shooting